Close Encounters And Personal Transformation


Richard Boylan, Ph.D.

[Notes by David Wilcock]

Link to Dr. Boylan’s Website – a must-read set of articles…

One of the most striking things about a first encounter with an extraterrestrial is the intensely personal feeling, dialogue process, and relationship formation that goes on almost instantaneously, when the lead extraterrestrial of a group engages a human contactee in mind-to-mind communication. Often a feeling of love is experienced from the principal extraterrestrial. A bond, often life-long, is forged between the extraterrestrial and the selected human visited.

The bonding experience that takes hold between a human Experiencer and his/her primary extraterrestrial contact person leads to feelings and behaviors that sustain the relationship. The attention to this relationship, and the nourishing of this relationship by both sides, ET and human, is one of the more touching aspects of the Extraterrestrial Contact phenomenon.

As a young woman put it: "I got a feeling of wanting to be bonded with the ET’s. I find myself missing them. When I was with them, I had a sense of peace, love. You become a part of the (principal) ET individual dealing with you. He becomes your counterpart."

This ET communication, after the initial close encounter in-person with the Extraterrestrial, will frequently be from a distance. The message is telepathically projected into the mind of the Experiencer. This communication can take several forms: a message given during sleep, during what appears to be a "Dream"; or an insight or intuition that a person wakes up with that s/he didn’t have when s/he went to sleep; or a sudden gentle or strong thought that comes to a person during the day, that is so out-of-character with their usual thinking as to draw attention to itself and suggest an external origin.

[Note: And of course, the work here on the website represents an advanced level of translation of the ET message into a verbal, written form, with as little distortion from the scribe’s conscious mind as can possibly be accomplished.]

The close extraterrestrial encounter permanently affects the human involved. One of the more common effects, in those Experiencers who have had competent debriefing and counseling, is a sense of altered and heightened consciousness. Along with that goes the felt need to begin "cleaning up one’s act" in respect to practices which are at variance with higher consciousness. Some experiencers feel drawn towards a vegetarian lifestyle, while other experiencers have felt an imperative to get rid of habits which interfere with their full awareness and consciousness. These have included jettisoning tobacco, alcohol, marijuana and other drugs, caffeinated coffee, free sugar, and other consciousness-changing substances from their diets. I have humorously complained about being turned into a "Zen monk" by the ETs. But the truth is that I have voluntarily made these changes, because they feel better and the old habits repel me now.

[Note: Indeed, no matter where you go, all those who are truly in contact with this Higher Intelligence are going to say the same thing. You have to let go of the "comfort foods" that are actually nothing but forms of slow suicide if you are to meet your highest potential. What is more important, Ascension into a Utopian realm or meat, coffee and chocolate? If the gateway was open right now and the beings of Light are standing in front of you, which of the two would you choose?]

Some pop UFO magazines would have you believe that the ETs are mainly interested in exotic technology. The surprising truth is that the "punch line" of extraterrestrial communication is the philosophical and spiritual messages they bring. During an encounter, one late-20s male raised the topic most on his mind, whether the extraterrestrials also believe in God. They do. With relief this experiencer states, "The ET’s back my faith in a Supreme Being." As a matter of fact, some people who have had encounters have moved from agnostic or uninterested in religion to start cultivating the spiritual dimension of their lives.

Of course the ETs understand God in a fairly sophisticated way. Numerous experiencers have gotten the information that the Extraterrestrials acknowledge a Supreme Source of everything. Furthermore, the ETs acknowledge a common link, based on that common Source. Indeed, that is why they so often say to the human they visit, "You and we are one."

One Experiencer reports her sense of having been subtly but profoundly affected in the way she allows the spiritual to have a place in her life. For her, extraterrestrial contact resulted in a spiritual awakening, or deepening. Furthermore, she gained insight into the place of a practical spirituality in the course of daily living. "As a result of my ET contact, I find myself moving away from materialism. I see better that the spiritual and material realms penetrate each other."

There is not space here to lay out how the extraterrestrials’ visit awakened her spirituality. However, other experiencers have noted that exposure to these wise, sensitive, deeply caring Beings, not to mention the change of perspective that comes with awareness of intelligent life elsewhere in the Universe, causes the Experiencer to move into more philosophical and spiritual life directions.

Why do the ETs go to the trouble of traveling across huge distances to come here? One Experiencer, in her processing of extraterrestrial encounters, told of her overall impression of the agenda of the Extraterrestrials. She had moved from initial anxiety during the surprise of her first meeting, to a calmer and respectful appreciation of their role at this stage of human history. Her pithy comment: "The ET’s are here to help us." Indeed, in my research with hundreds of experiencers, I have come to characterize the visiting ETs as similar to our Peace Corps.

Yet another message speaks to one more central principle of the extraterrestrials philosophy, that violence and warfare are to be avoided. As one young male put it: "I got that peace is to be worked on — it’s important!" The extraterrestrials are quite concerned with our proclivity for wars, and that we now possess the weapons for mass destruction (nuclear, fuel-air, biological, nerve gas aerosols) that could cause loss of life on a truly horrific and apocalyptic scale. Because life is sacred, this is, to the extraterrestrials, unthinkably morally wrong. It is striking that even some career military personnel, after an encounter with one of the space visitors, finds himself wanting to move away from war and killing.

As a result of these visits and communications, an awareness comes to captivate a number of experiencers — a sense of mission. Sometimes the sense of mission is quite specific, such as when a part-Native American housewife I worked with got that she was supposed to get ready to do a lot of public speaking. Other times the mission sense is vague. The Experiencer knows that s/he ought to be doing something related to the extraterrestrials presence among us, but cannot yet get a clear sense of what that task is. At still other times, the sense of mission is unconscious. The Experiencer feels uneasy, restless, that something is not right; yet s/he cannot put her/his finger on what exactly it is that s/he should be doing or doing differently. This person will often struggle and think and consult until they get a clearer sense of their mission.

[David’s Note: This is the single most frequently cited "problem" by those who seek to communicate with these Beings by getting a reading from me. Although the answers differ from one person to the next, due to the extreme uniqueness of the human experience, the overall core of the message is NOT that you need to make any dramatic changes in your life, like leaving your wife or husband, your home or your job for someone or something "more spiritual." This is only looking at life at the "grossest" level and rating your "spirituality" as though it were a material-centered system of valuation, where only those who are Reiki healers, card readers, mystics and ET channelers hold any job merit, where the only right place to live is way out in the woodsy mountains with a huge survival stash, completely sequestered away from all possible threats of Earth Changes, and where the only "right" person to be with is your elusive "Soul Mate" whom you have known and loved at least since Atlantis.

Rather, the challenge is to take the job, life, and home that you already have, and MAKE it more spiritual, by your own doing! Many of those who feel this calling of "mission" will have their ideas make much more sense as the social changes intensify in the final stages of the Ascension process. So be patient, and in the meantime become a living vessel of Grace in all that you do, each and every day, no matter where you are. Your life, right now, IS the mission. Are you going to participate in the mission or not? Are you going to continue wondering what the heck you are supposed to be doing, instead of simply living your life to its highest potential? Remember that this mission is a TEAM effort. You are not expected or asked to take all of this feeling of responsibility upon yourself. You can claim this website and all other positive works both inside and outside of this planet as part of YOUR team effort. Do your part as a "Member" in the grocery store, by acknowledging the cashier’s humanity. Simplicity.

You don’t have to do anything physically different- but you do need to be absolutely brutally honest with yourself about those areas of shadow that you still like to hide within – the ways in which you still murder yourself and others in the etheric sense. You might find a lot more than you are willing to honestly admit, and every time that you run away from it and continue in self-indulgence, you are stepping back from the gateway. Cleansing your shadow and arriving at self-perfection is the HIGHEST MISSION THAT YOU CAN TAKE UPON YOURSELF. So put on your hip boots and dig deep within yourself. Find all those things that you really don’t want to deal with, that you know you should change but you are too stale and lazy to do anything about it. Get revved up about changing yourself, about transforming your life into one of greatness. That DOESN’T necessarily mean any physical changes. Once you find the REAL issues and heal them, then any necessary physical changes will appear to you as clear as day.]

Concern for the proper rearing of the children is another important principle of extraterrestrial philosophy, whether those children are human or Extraterrestrial. As a result of encounters, most experiencers develop a profound sense of the importance of tending to the well-being of the children. As one older woman said, "They communicated that it’s important to steer the children in the right direction."

The extraterrestrials are well aware that the next generation is already forming now. Visited humans come to share that passion for the next generation. Perhaps as part of that awareness, the extraterrestrials often begin their campaign of contacts with an individual early in his/her life, sometimes as young as preschool years, or even in the crib. They believe that thorough preparation across the formative years is critical for nurturing the developing experiencer.

[Note: We are publishing this article side-by-side with the truly incredible, exclusive story of "Mary," an exceptionally gifted young woman of 15 who has had certain telekinetic or mind-over-matter abilities that stand side-by-side with the most fantastic cases ever reported. A significant piece of information at the end of the interview was that her father reported an ET contact at age five. According to "From Elsewhere" by Dr. Scott Mandelker, age five is the single most commonly reported age for "first contact," and ETs generally work with families from one generation to the next. Therefore, there is probably much more to this story than what she has been able to remember thus far. More importantly, this young girl actively demonstrates the direction that all of us are so rapidly heading into now.]

And correspondingly, these humans feel deeply their cosmic roots, and that they have a foot in each world – human and cosmic. Thus, these experiencers are transformed into what the former General Counsel for the Smithsonian Institution called "Homo Alterios Spatialis" – the Transformed Cosmic Human. As such, these avant-garde humans pioneer the path that our whole society will soon take, as the reality of ET visitation is acknowledged by the authorities.

Dr. Richard Boylan is a behavioral scientist, certified clinical hypnotherapist, retired university instructor, and internationally-noted researcher of extraterrestrial-human encounters.

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